Ideal announcements

I was told yesterday about a lady who's trying to have another child and is having miscarriages. I am very sad about her plight, but I am also very sad about how I was told. Amongst the story it was said "she made the mistake of telling everyone she was pregnant". I have an ideal view on pregnancy announcements. A pregnancy announcement should never be a mistake. It should never be something you regret. It should also never be a confession of guilt. I've heard so many over the years and it is supposed to be a joyous occasion. It's supposed to be an excited, jump up and down, I am so happy to share my news! Over the years I am hearing more and more announcements that break my heart. And it's not just because I wish it were me. I've heard announcements that are scared because they don't feel ready. Heard one in tears because she just had a baby 3 months ago and isn't ready for another. Heard one "I'm pregnant. Now you know." said with a glare in response to a simple, how are you?. I know not everyone is ready to have a baby when they get pregnant. I know many pregnancies aren't planned. Two of my nieces came about while she was on birth control with her boyfriend. Those announcements were more word of mouth shameful. Again my heart breaks! If only all the announcements were a joyous occasion. I remember smiling, hugging, jumping up and down in circles when my mom, or my friend's mom, or my aunt, or my friend's sister... Just about any pregnancy announcement was a good thing. Now when it's already hard enough for me to not be standing here wishing it was me.... So many are standing there pregnant wishing it wasn't them. Going back to the lady who "made the mistake of telling everyone she's pregnant", at least it was a happy announcement when said. I imagine she won't say right away with any other pregnancies for fear that it won't last. When and if I get pregnant, I plan to make my announcement big. If it doesn't last..... at least I enjoyed it while it was there.