Why is it that when you decide you want to do something everyone wants you to do something different? Or wants you to do it their way? Or maybe everyone just feels they need to pitch in their advice. I don't know, but it's annoying.
You decide you want to adopt and your friend starts telling you about some hormone issue that her friend found out she has that was a problem for her trying to conceive and maybe you should have that checked. -Cherish
You mention your friend who is doing a bunch of fund raisers to help with their adoption and how it's giving you ideas for when you start doing that. So immediately they start asking if you've been tested and they try to convince you that you'll have your own kids. -Blakely's PT
You talk about adoption and how you'd really like to adopt like a 2 or 3 year old. That you'd really like to adopt a little kid. So they send your mutual friend a text about how they should tell you about this little 6 month old that's supposed to be going up for adoption soon in your area. -Kota
You know what I don't get? When you are trying to have your own kid everyone wants to throw in the "well you can always adopt". First off, that really bugs me! It bugs me how people always throw adoption out as a last resort. What if someone wanted to adopt just because they wanted to adopt? I do NOT want to adopt JUST because I don't have kids. I do NOT want to adopt because I can NOT have kids. Jared has an aunt to who got pregnant with her first and only child out of the blue when she was 39 years old. Maybe I will have kids of "my own" some day, but what if I have to wait until then? I want to be a mom in the meantime! If you told me it was only going to be a few years from now, then I still would like to adopt in the meantime. And you know what else? If I get pregnant close to the adoption point, I still want to adopt. Why? Because if God feels the need for me to be pregnant just before I bring home someone else's kid, I think He figures I can handle being the mom to two.
Anyway.... What I think is strange is that when you are trying for your own they say things like "have you considered adoption?". But now that we want to adopt a kid.... people are doing the opposite. It's like now that I might want to adopt they think I've lost all hope of having my own so they need to encourage me that it'll happen someday. Which I know it very well could, but I don't want to sit here waiting for an I don't know. I know there is a lot of paperwork to be filled out, a lot of stuff to be done around the house, and plenty more I'm sure before we'd be ready to adopt, but working on all of that is one step closer to being a parent. And being a parent is what I've always wanted to be.