I've mentioned my friends Jon and Cherish a few times now, but I thought I'd make a post just about them. This is a very long post... I won't feel bad if you are not interested in reading it. My other one today is short. lol
We met Jon at a gaming shop about 2 and a half years ago. We heard a little here and there about this girl he was dating named Cherish. The biggest thing I remember him telling us about her was that she had this crazy idea about making Roadkill Cuddlies. Stuffed animals with tire tracks through them... tongue sticking out... x's for eyes... all that kinda stuff. She never did do it, but it was an idea of hers. I personally think my grandpa would love one! But anyways... We got to know Jon a bit, and we liked him. However we hadn't met Cherish much to know whether we liked her or not.
In April I was on facebook and Jon shot me a message saying they were getting married that Saturday! Sadly we were going to be out of town. But within the next week or two they had us over for dinner. Then we had them over for dinner. Then the other way. Bam! we started hanging out with them once every week. Almost instantly we had become good friends with Jon and Cherish! Things were going great!
Then in June, only two months later, on Father's Day no less.... Cherish found out she was pregnant. Yes, I cried. But I decided that I would be happy for her. That this wasn't going to change things. You see I haven't made much friends down here, especially not good ones. Cherish had the potential to become a best friend. I didn't want that chance to leave. So distancing myself from her was not an option.
I'm trying to do that whole "living vicariously through so-n-so" thing. We've talked lots about new moms. We've talked a bunch about pregnancy things. Know how I've mentioned that I haven't had a female exam before? That I always thought I could just wait until I got pregnant and then wouldn't be able to put it off any longer? Well Cherish did the same thing! She put it off and had her first exam at the age of 26 because of this lil baby she's carrying. That is just one example of how me and her think alike.
Cherish has also decided to go with a midwife. I had researched midwives! That's the rout I'm wanting to take. So of course I've been asking how that is going. Yeah know, doing more research for when my time comes.
Every time we meet with Jon and Cherish we find out more ways that we are alike, me to Cherish, and Jared to Jon, and how we act as a couple compared to how they do.... So many similarities! What we believe, what movies/books we like, how we were raised, and such. When I look at Jon and Cherish, I see us. I see us as how I always pictured Jared and I being that early in our marriage.
I always thought I would be pregnant right away. When Jared mentioned while we were engaged that he'd like to be able to celebrate our first anniversary just the two of us..... I honestly thought it would be a struggle for that to happen. I told him I wasn't going to take birth control. If he didn't want a baby, he'd have to use condoms. Well... we tried that... once... didn't like it. lol. Then he was just hoping I wouldn't get pregnant until like... four months into our marriage. That way at least the baby wouldn't be here by on our anniversary and we could celebrate alone. Yeah know what? I'm really glad that I never did anything to prevent getting pregnant, didn't need it.
Anyways.... Cherish is now four months along. She is definitely starting to show that baby bump. She's getting ready to have to say goodbye to all her pre-pregnancy clothes for a while. And... It's getting harder to keep my eyes from watering when I see her. It's only a matter of time before I'll have to tell her how wrecked I am inside because I'm not a mom.
Cherish knows we're trying for a child. A few comments here and there I'm sure she knows. But I haven't really talked to her about it yet. I haven't really explained anything that I'm going through with it to her. She got pregnant so early on in our friendship that I felt telling her then would have just made her feel bad. Not that she'd have any reason to feel bad, but she'd feel bad and worry that her being pregnant made me feel bad. If you know what I mean.
We've now started going to the church that Jon preaches at, so I'll be seeing a LOT of them. And this Sunday we've got plans to spend all day with them after church. I didn't want to distance myself from Cherish in the beginning, and now it's going to be impossible. So... anyways.. that's Jon and Cherish for you.